You know at times you’re sitting and eating your evening tea and you suddenly realize how weird the world actually is. I watch a lot of movies and will continue that until the day I die but now perhaps I am really beginning to realize that the old saying “What you see on television is not true.” that we’ve always heard from our parents which goes is actually true.
Think about it, every third movie you watch has scenes where a guy goes and approaches a girl with real ease and mostly escapes without a slap or the “turn down”. To be exact, the other day I was watching such a movie with a friend and I remember me asking him at one point “It seems so easy you know.” and he went “It’s only smooth on screen.”. He’s right because if we knew, mostly us guys sadly but in reality if we have even a speck of chance of being turned down we don’t take the step. That’s just how it is, it’s same whether you’re a guy or a girl, gay or straight. We’re afraid of either losing the person from our lives or losing our streak in never being turned down. If the movie route could be taken there would be a lesser number of “sweet talkers” without someone to hook up with every Tuesday. All of us successful talkers can’t take the “No”, basically.
Pickups aren’t the only ones, the similar courage and success when you’re in or you come across a tough spot which you can’t handle easily. That’s long form for “people who want to kick your ass”. If I could fool people and lessen the numbers with as simple as “Wait wait wait” to as complex as “Robby! It’s been so long! Remember the daily outings, you visiting me and me visiting you? Let me give you a hug, then maybe you’ll remember” and taking the chance to jab or turning his/her gun against him/her. The tv is basically saying “You have it in you. You don’t really need any training.” And I’m like “So you’re basically telling me that there is a semi bruce lee inside everyone.”.
Another particular one which is really what made me start talking about this in the first place is that sense of freedom you see in movies. You know that “nothing awkward about it” feeling when a new character suddenly pops up and enters the conversation without asking. I’d love to suddenly walk up to a friend and tell her “Listen I know how you feel but you need to really smile, not just smile. Those who really care about you would really want you to do that” because she definitely needs to know that. To be really honest, that thing just makes you jealous of a movie. A human being jealous of a visual for something can you believe it? I tell you, when you’re able to walk up to someone and tell him/her something based on what you noticed from their behavior in the last five minutes and it’s ok, then you know what proper freedom can be like. It also means that then the word “awkward” needn’t exist.
Basically what they tell you is what’s possible then it’s done. They’ve been doing that for decades. We can always try to impress a girl on the street or walk up and save her from a passing creep or comment on a conversation she’s having but that situation isn’t going to come every day. Unfortunately they aren’t always acceptable everywhere too. If they were, life would be so much easier and more fun. Sometimes this freedom just helps bring people closer easily.